BEHAVE!

saw this really cute 3 year old indian boy in child psychiatric clinic...soooo chubby and obese (not good!)..he came in with his grandma and was punching her all the time, yet still hugging her..he was also yelling at her in tamil and was giving her this really scary glares each time the grandma pushes him away from her because i think, for someone as frail as she is, that big boy is going to kill her just by hugging her tightly...

well, this mother brought her grandchild to the psychiatric clinic because she was worried with this child's aggressive behavior...apparently, this boy also have some problematic family issue..his parents are separated because the father is a drug dealer and addict and currently is in jail..and the mother has some mental illness...and this boy is used to watching his parents quarrel since he was 2 year old...though he is still a toddler, a toddler's brain is not something without functions...he remembers all this things...and another flaw was that his grandma allows him to watch all those violent and ghostly cartoons and movies..and the kid loves it till he didn't want to watch anything other than that...the movie that he likes best is tamil movies...this statement is kind of stereotype, but it is real that most of tamil movies has this similar story-line where violence are part of it and some people behaves kind of harshly...i'm not saying other movies do not have this features, but this boy is so into tamil movie which makes me highlight this issue...and being the only grandchild at home, he is overly pampered by his grandma...nothing that he wanted is being refused..and if so, he'll throw tantrum like the devil, shouting here and there, hitting everyone, throwing things, kicking and stuff..

during the clinic session, we gave him a toy phone to distract him from his grandma and his tantrums of hitting his grandma and whining about immediately stops...so he played with the toy and the psychiatrist talks to the grandma about changing this boy's lifestyle...basically, he's got to stop watching those violent and ghost-based movies (apparently he has some sort of hallucination related to the ghosts he watch from the TV)..and he has to go out and play because he is so obese (50kg for a 3 year old!!) and he is to be re-taught on who is the boss at home...

then when his session is about to finish, the doctor asked for the toy back..and then the tantrum starts all over again...he began shouting at his grandma and kicking her and then give her that tamil hero glare (it was soooo significantly similar to those in the tamil dramas that i feel like making the boy angry at me and take picture of his glare)..he also screamed,"CHAIIITTTT! to the grandma and the sound was so like those who got so frustrated whenever some other people insults them and then they spits on the ground or whatever...it was exactly the same and i was astounded yet felt like laughing all the same...

so the doctor asked the grandma to leave the boy and one step out of the door, the boy starts bellowing like crazy...he cried so hard and at that time surrendered every thing that he has (which is only the toy) to get back to his grandma...it was so sweet!! how a big 3 year old indian hero suddenly cried because the grandma is gone...hahahahahha..so we sent him back to his grandma after managing to take back the toy without even having to yell at him or hit and force him like many adults loves to do when faced with this kind of difficulty...all u have to do is let the child compromise with whatever they have to get whatever they need most and decide for themselves...do not underestimate their intelligence~

so this is what happens to most kids this days...they are not sick..but they are taught with wrong approach...parents or guardians allows them to do whatever they want and give them everything that they want so that the kid will sit quietly and the parents can work in peace..so they are exposed to the wrong things at the wrong age...they see things at different angle which is most of the time is wrong...they perceive things wrongly...and they grew up to be a troubled and dependent person..lucky that this boy was sent to psychiatrist early, so he can be saved early...so, please do justice to our child! (that is a big reminder for myself..huk)


p/s: i also learnt that kids this days has problem with speech..many of them have delayed speech not because they are autistic or mute, but because they have no one to talk to (parents working all day and night) and all that they can talk to is to the TV which definitely did not talk back to them, and in fact, shows mute cartoons such as Pingu which kids loves soo much...now i feel lucky because i have parents who loves to give me lectures when i was little so at least i don't have delayed speech...hehe

p/s 2: a study has proven that 2 hours TV watching for child at the age of 3-5 year old can cause behavior destruction...i freaked out to know this!! (cez my little sis spends like 24 hour watching TV..daymmnn)